For the past few years, I’ve heard countless stories told to me about people who have been or are currently a scammed victim with a relationship with someone from Morocco. Some of them are in the early stages, others have been romantically linked for years, and some have ended their relationship only to realize that they have been a scammed victim for their entire relationship. I wish I could sit here and tell you that all the stories that have been sent to me and genuine relationships but unfortunately the truth is that the majority of these stories involve a scammed victim. This is why I continue to write these articles, with the hope that I can prevent people from becoming a scammed victim which I consider a crime. If you haven’t read my previous articles please have a look here, you will see some proven steps to prevent yourself from becoming a scammed victim. I’m going to share a story that spans 5 years of a woman who was in a relationship with a Moroccan. Because the story of this scammed victim is so long, it will be broken up by years. You will get to see the entire ordeal this scammed victim endures for 5 years. Throughout this story, I will not be using the writer’s name and instead be referencing her by other means. In this article, she will be known as the scammed victim. The story will show you that this writer did not realize the reality of her situation until it was too late. It starts in 2015.
January 5, 2015
Well, today was interesting. I was on this language site to practice my French. Since I have completed my french classes, I needed to find a way to practice what I have learned and this site says that I can meet people from all over the world and practice any language with them. This is all part of my new year’s resolution to be fluent in French. Well, I guess you can say the new year’s resolution is from 2014, LOL. I signed up yesterday and already I have people messaging me, saying that they will practice with me. Well, I was going through the messages and one person sent me a message saying that he was an actual french teacher from a reputable university. Well technically he said a big university but I knew what he meant. He said he was looking for someone to practice English with and thought that we could help each other. I decided to contact this man. He asked that we switch to WhatsApp as he has had issues with this site. It was a little weird to leave the site but it did make sense to switch to an app that was more stable. We started practicing French for around 15 min. I think he could tell that I still had a lot to learn but he was very patient with me. Then we started to chat in English. His English wasn’t perfect but he could communicate with me. We must have spoken for 2 hours. He told me about his life in Morocco, the struggles he goes through, and the beauty of his country. I was so surprised that he was so open with me on the first chat that we had. Well, at the end of the conversation, he said that I’m doing well and will be fluent in no time. I’m so excited to practice again.
January 7, 2015
So, I spoke to this Moroccan man again. We did our usual 15 min of French and then we switched to English. He continued to tell me about his country and suggested that I come to visit. He said that if I did decide to come he would change from my teacher to my tour guide, LOL. Even though his English is not perfect, he is so funny. He started to talk about his family and how close he is to them, especially his Mom. I found that so sweet. I have to drag my son out of his room just to spend 5 min with me and he treats those 5 mins like some sort of cruel punishment. This is such a contrast to this man who spends every meal with his family and sits with his mother to discuss his day with her. He then started talking about relationships and how he desires to be in one. He said that he was getting old and his family wanted to see him married soon. When I asked how old he was, I was floored. He said he was 26 years old. Most guys I know don’t marry until their mid to late 30’s. Even me and my ex-husband married when we were both 30 I told him not to rush into anything. I wish I took my time with Charlie. Instead, I married I loser who left me and my son after abusing me mentally for years. He told me that he has searched in his country for girls but all of them were too busy with makeup and dressing up like movie stars instead of having a true relationship. I haven’t met any Moroccan girls before but from the sounds of it, they have an immaturity problem. It isn’t too different from girls here. When I told him this, to my surprise he agreed. He said that he was done with young girls for this same reason and was now looking for older girls. Hey, maybe I have a chance with this guy, LOL. I’m just kidding. He is a sweet guy and I really hope he finds this special girl he is looking for. I suggested that we switch to skype to practice speaking instead of just typing. He said that his connection was not good with skype. He would try to send a voice recording to me by email.
January 8, 2015
Nothing much happened today. I’m preparing to return to work on Monday. Tim is still with his father (or I should say he is with Charlie’s parents) for the next few days. An interesting thing happened. Yesterday I spoke with the Moroccan man. He said that he would send his voice to me over email. I didn’t honestly think he would do it but when I woke up, I saw his email. When I opened his email, he provided a voice file as he said he would. He has a nice voice and in his voice file, he told me his name was Adam. You know, I didn’t even ask what his name was. I have been speaking with him for the past few days and never bothered to ask him what his name is. How embarrassing. He also sent his picture to me. He said that he wanted me to know the face behind the voice. LOL. He is really handsome. I’m surprised he is having such a hard time finding a girl to marry.
January 15, 2015
Work was ok. Tim is back and still hiding in his room. I tried telling him that kids in Morocco actually spend time with their families. He just shrugged his shoulders and continued to be silent. Adam has been contacting me every day now and chatting. Usually, we have these deep conversations about life while we add some jokes here or there. Today Adam shocked me. He told me that he is falling in love with me! He said that he has been searching for a woman like me for so long and that I am everything that he is looking for in a wife. I took a few minutes to try to gather myself. I finally told him that it wouldn’t work out between us. How could he be in love with me and not even know what I look like? Also, he didn’t know that I had a 15-year-old son. If all that wasn’t enough he didn’t know that I was 47 years old. He told me that these words cut him deeply. I felt so bad to hurt him. I explained that I went through a really messy divorce. It was a while ago and it has taken me all that time to settle myself with my son to where we are now comfortable. I told him that I wasn’t ready to change that and I decided a long time ago to stay single and take care of my son. He said that even if I didn’t feel the same way as he felt about me, he would try every day for the rest of his life to try to change my thinking. He is a really sweet guy. I’ll continue to talk to him until he eventually finds another girl who will feel the same way about him.
February 14, 2015
Today is Valentine’s Day. For the past 10 years, I’ve really just treated today like any other day. I go to work, I come home, I cook dinner for myself and my son, and finally, I watch a little TV before going to sleep. Today at lunch, I checked my email and saw a virtual Valentine’s card sent to me by Adam. In the card, it said that he was so far away and his only wish was that I was in his arms. He misses me like crazy and prays that one day he will be with me. Usually, I don’t care about this mushy stuff but I thought that it was so touching that he did this. We still talk every day but besides his normal “Hello my love” or “Sweet dreams my heart”, our conversations are really deep. Regardless of how I feel, we do have a strong connection between us. Normally during the week, we speak only for an hour as the time difference between Florida and Morocco is 6 hours. Today he spoke with me until my bedtime which was really late for him. He told me if I was his girlfriend, how he would take me all over the world and shower me with gifts. LOL, I don’t care about any of those things. Really I would just like to afford to buy a house and take care of my son for the next few years. I did appreciate Adam staying up so late to try to make today feel special for me. As a result, I decided to send him a picture of myself. I was so nervous sending him the picture. I was just praying that he liked it. Once he saw my picture he told me that he probably not sleep tonight. He is such a joker.
March 22, 2015
I had to go to my son’s school a few days ago. His principal told me that Tim is skipping classes and just hanging out with a bunch of other kids who are skipping. His English and Math teachers were also in the principal’s office. They both said that Tim was a very smart student and they were concerned that he was letting all of his potential go to waste. Of course, when I spoke to Tim at home, he wouldn’t say anything. I spoke to Adam about this and he thinks that the divorce between me and my husband has affected him. The divorce was 10 years ago. I would have assumed that Tim would have gotten over it but maybe he is right. I made an appointment to see a family counselor. The counselor said it could be true that the divorce was affecting Tim. She said that I would need to try to connect with him with some common interests, try to not lecture him but instead give him consequences for not talking. Also, she mentioned watching his diet and trying to control junk food. I have to admit we do eat a lot of junk food and this is something I’m trying to control. Adam thinks I should take up gaming as a common interest. LOL. I don’t think I played a video game since the ’80s.
April 20, 2015
My relationship with Tim is a lot better now. I didn’t take up gaming as Adam suggested but helps me with cooking every evening, there are a couple of tv shows that both of us watch together, and on Saturday evenings we play board games. He is talking a bit more now but I know that it’s going to be a while before he becomes Mr. Chatty. His principal and teacher have said that he has stopped skipping and is doing well with his grades. As for Adam we still talk every day. It’s a bit of a juggle with spending time with my son and chatting with Adam but so far I’m able to handle it. I really appreciate how patient Adam has been with me for these past few weeks. I don’t think I have spoken any French with him for such a long time. He has really been there to listen to my complaints and helped me through this entire ordeal I had with Tim. He still says that he is waiting for the day his love will be with him in his arms. He now keeps asking me to come to visit him in Morocco. I keep telling him that I can’t but it’s becoming harder and harder to reject such a wonderful man.
June 8, 2015
There is no point in denying my feelings. I’m in love with Adam. It feels like I have always been in love with him. From the first conversation we had, I could feel a strong connection with him. For the last few months before he would say goodbye, he would tell me that he loved me. Normally I would just tell him to take care. Yesterday evening before he left, he told me he loved me and I told him I love you too. It was so instinctive that it took me a few seconds to realize what I said. Adam being the romantic that he is then said that if he was to die right now, he would die the happiest he has ever been. It’s now 2 am and I can’t sleep. I keep thinking about it and the more I think about it, the more I realize lucky I am. Here is this amazing guy. Young, handsome, sweet, romantic, and on top of all of that, he loves me. He has waited for me for 6 months to fall in love with him. Talk about being patient. Guys here wouldn’t wait 6 hours for you. This must be true love. I haven’t felt like this since I was married and even then, I don’t think the love was this strong between me and Charlie. As I write, tears are falling from my eyes. I’m just so taken aback by this feeling. I think Adam said it best. If I was dying right now I would die, the happiest I have ever been.
August 2, 2015
Just returned from my 2-week vacation. Took Tim to Las Vegas to some video game event called Evo. I still can’t believe that they have stadiums of fans that watch people play video games. Well, Tim had a blast. Our relationship has changed so much over the past year. It feels so good to have a relationship with him. I still haven’t told him about Adam. LOL, when I chat with Adam, Tim thinks I’m taking a French lesson. I’m going to have to tell him sooner or later. I just don’t want to destroy what I and Tim have built over the past year. Adam and I are still going strong. These past few weeks I haven’t spoken much with him. He explained to me that it was because of Ramadan. This is a Muslim event where they fast every day for a month. Because of the heat and his not eating or drinking, it was difficult for him to speak. He would chat for a few minutes before he ate. He keeps asking me to visit him. I really wish I could but the tickets are so expensive. Also, I only get 2 weeks for vacation and I already used it for Tim in Las Vegas. Sometimes I wonder whether it will work between us. After all, he is a religious Muslim. He prays and fasts. Meanwhile, I’m Catholic and I rarely go to church. Well, tomorrow it’s back to work. I wish I was still on vacation. I wish I was on vacation in Morocco.
August 16, 2015
Just finished speaking with Adam. Every time I speak with this wonderful man, he puts my heart at ease. I was just thinking about some of the differences we have like age and religion. I spent the past week thinking about this until finally deciding to share my concerns with Adam. He simply reassured me that his love for me was not influenced by age or religion. He said that he would rather be happy with me than with someone who was his age or his religion. I have to admit, his words make a lot of sense to me. Charlie was only 2 years older than me and we were both Catholic. We are even the same race and born in the same county. I was miserable when I married him and we were so similar. I really need to stop thinking about these superficial things that have no bearing on my relationship. Adam still asks me from time to time about marriage. I keep telling him no. I asked him how he could marry a Catholic girl. He says that Muslims are allowed to marry Christian and Jewish. I guess that is comforting to know. I’m really in love with Adam and I want to spend the rest of my life with him but I don’t want to marry anyone. I hope he could understand.
September 9, 2015
Met a Moroccan at work today. She started on our team today and I was asked to train her on how to use the phones and talk to the customers. She was a very polite and quiet girl. She wore one of those scarves over her head. I heard some people taking notice of it and making comments. This annoyed me. C’mon people, it’s 2015. Just because she is dressed differently doesn’t mean she is some kind of freak. Most of them didn’t even speak to her to know what kind of person she was. I sat with her at lunch. Previously I would chat with Adam but recently he had quit his job and had to take another job which had him work longer hours. We still spoke every day but it was when I finished work. Well, today I spoke with the Moroccan lady. She told me about her life in Morocco. She was impressed that I knew about Ramadan and Eid. I told her about my boyfriend in Morocco and how I wished I could visit him. She then suggested that I ask my boyfriend to visit her. I felt so dumb as to not think about Adam coming to visit me. We always spoke about me trying to travel to visit him but with the price of the ticket and the free time to travel, it was never a real option. She continued to tell me he could try to get a travel visa to come to visit me here. As long as he had a steady job and a bank account with statements that showed his income was being deposited, he shouldn’t have an issue. I’m so excited to tell him the great news. He said that he had to work really late so he couldn’t speak with me tonight but he would talk to me tomorrow. I can’t believe that I will get to see the love of my life.
September 10, 2015
Well, that didn’t work. I told Adam about the travel visa and he said it will not work. He said that he has tried to get a travel visa in the past but the embassy doesn’t recognize his job as a professional job. The second thing was that he doesn’t have a bank account. He said the fees are too high to keep the money in a bank. I asked how the embassy did not recognize his job as a real job. He was a teacher at a university! He said that he was a teacher but since he left, he is now working a regular job for very little money. We started a long conversation about why he settled into a regular job instead of waiting for another teaching job. He said that it was different in Morocco than in America. When you lose your job, it’s very difficult to find another one, in the same field. I asked him why he didn’t tell me this before. He said he was embarrassed. I guess I understand. He was my French teacher so losing his job felt like he was losing his status. I assured him that I still loved him and we will try to find another solution.
September 23, 2015
Today was a wonderful day. I woke up and as I was getting ready to go to work, Adam messaged me. He told me that today was Eid. I told him that I thought Eid was in July but he let me know that there are 2 Eids in the year. He asked me to call his brothers on Skype when I return home from work. He wanted to video call me. This was so exciting for me because for the past 9 months we haven’t done a video call before. I spent the entire day anticipating this Skype call. I looked for my Moroccan friend but she was away today. I assumed she took the day off for Eid. I came home early today and got myself ready trying to look as attractive as I could. I turned on my laptop and made the Skype call. My heart must have been beating 1000 beats per minute while the Skype call was transferring. Finally, I saw the video with Adam. He looked just as handsome as in his picture. We greeted each other but he held off on his regular romantic gestures as he was there with his entire family. I actually liked that because this showed how much respect he had for his family. I can’t tell you how happy I felt to hear his voice live. We spoke for a few minutes and then he introduced me to his family. I met his 2 brothers and sister, his dad, and his mom. His dad spoke in Arabic to me but Adam said that he welcomed me to come to Morocco. I then spoke with Adam. Even though we had chatted for 9 months I felt so shy to speak with him on Skype. He asked me about my day and I tried to tell but then the video started to freeze. After a few minutes of this, the call was disconnected. He messaged me on WhatsApp and said that the wifi was not good and that was why it ended. He told me he loves me and would chat with me tomorrow and left. After that call, I felt like I was floating on a cloud. I can’t even describe the feeling I have right now to see Adam and talk to him. That video call made my day. Now the next step is to see him face to face.
September 30, 2015
I decided to tell Tim about Adam. I think it was the right time to tell him about my relationship with Adam. I told him about Adam as we were cooking dinner together. To say he was shocked would be an understatement. He must have stayed silent for a good few minutes. I started to panic a bit. I thought this news would have shocked him back into his old ways of just ignoring me. I told him just talk to me, I won’t judge. He told me he didn’t really know how to feel about this. He then started asking me a series of questions. What’s his name? How long have I had a relationship with him? What does he do? I tried answering the questions but this led to more questions. How come I never saw him in the 9 months you had a relationship? How did you have a relationship when you never go out? Does he live close by? Eventually, Tim’s questions led him to know that I have a long-distance relationship that’s mostly on WhatsApp. Tim then said something that shocked me. He told me that long-distance relationships never work out and that he thought that this was a terrible idea. He said that I can do what I want but he wants no contact with Adam. We ate dinner in silence as we both had no words to say to each other. Before I would yell at Tim if he upset me but we have developed a great relationship and I didn’t want to ruin that. After dinner, we both went to our rooms. While I watched TV, I pondered what Tim said. That long-distance relationships do not work. How he didn’t want to have any part of it. I feel so divided right now. I know that Adam is the one for me but I can’t hurt my son. I don’t know what to do.
October 1, 2015
I thought I would never be as shocked as I was yesterday. I was wrong. When I returned home today. I was ready to tell Adam what happened yesterday between me and Tim. Just as I said hi to my love, Tim knocked on my door and asked if he could talk to me. I told Adam that I would contact him after because Tim wanted to speak to me. Tim then came onto the bed and hugged me. He told me he was sorry if he upset me in any way. It’s just the news took him by surprise. He said he never saw me with anyone except his dad and me telling him about a new relationship really shocked him. To be honest the hug he gave me was a shock to me. He hasn’t hugged like that in years. As a mother, I felt so good hugging my son. He then told me that although he still felt weird that his mom has a boyfriend, if it made me happy then I should continue the relationship. I felt so happy when Tim said this. I grabbed him and gave him the biggest hug I could. We then started talking about the relationship and how I needed to find a way to meet with Adam. Imagine me talking with my son about my love life, LOL. If all these shocks were not enough, Tim was about to give me a doozy. He told me that he had been seeing a girl in his high school for the past few months and they were becoming serious. Back in my day, we use to call it going steady. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t mind if Tim is dating but he’s only 15 years old. He shouldn’t be getting serious with anyone right now. I really wanted to just tell him no, he couldn’t see her but he did come to me and tell me about his girlfriend in a mature way. I told him to invite her to dinner next week on a Saturday and we could discuss it further. I really hope the shocks and surprises are done for a while. I don’t know how much more I can take.
October 10, 2015
I finally met Tim’s girlfriend. For the past week and a half, I have complained to Adam about Tim and his girlfriend. He has spent the entire week and a half trying to calm me down. He is so patient with me. He told me that Tim is becoming a man and he is going to make decisions like this. Realistically there isn’t anything I can do to stop them from seeing each other. If she tries to stop them, he will just see her in secret. The only thing I could do is tell both of them my concerns and hope they listen to me. Honestly, it feels like sometimes I’m the 26-year-old and Adam is the 47-year-old, LOL. Well, the day came and she showed up at the door. Tim brought her in and she sat in the living room. I came in and greeted her. We had dinner and when I went to get the dessert, Tim had told me he would get it from the kitchen. This left me and Tim’s girlfriend Shirly alone. I remembered what Adam had told me and basically just told her my concerns. Being so young, they would forget about their academic life because they would be just focused on themselves. She told me that she understood where I was coming from. She said that even though she was madly in love with Tim, she was a straight-A student and had plans to go to university after she graduates. Tim then returned to sit beside Shirly. He told me that it’s because of Shirly that he is more focused on his school work. He said that he has now decided that he wants to be an engineer. He said that before he met Shirly, he didn’t even care about school and just sat in his room and played video games. This was true. I remembered him just playing video games just 4 or 5 months ago. These days, I rarely hear video games from his room. In the end, I told both of them that if Tim continues to bring good grades home, I wouldn’t interfere in their relationship.
November 7, 2015
Today was my birthday. I turned 48 today. I woke up to my boyfriend sending me another virtual card. Which read Happy birthday to the love of my life. I hope today brings you the best happiness. I wish you are here with me so I can make a small party a celebrate with you. Tim said that he and Shirly were going to cook dinner for me on my birthday. I thought that was very sweet of him. Shirly then came over in the afternoon and she met Tim in the kitchen to start cooking. Shirly then asked if I could take her to the store to pick up a few items they needed. While we were driving I asked Shirly what her parents thought about Tim. She told me that she hasn’t told her parents about Tim yet. I told her if she intends to go steady (yeah I still say go steady) with my son she would have to tell her parents. She said that she wanted to but she was afraid of her parents not approving and that her parents were not cool like me. I started laughing when she said that and she continued by saying that no one that she knows has a relationship like I have with my son and that it was so cool that I was dating a younger guy. I did appreciate her compliments but I told her sooner or later, she would have to let her parents know about Tim. When we got home, I was surprised to see my sister, mother, and a few of my friends at my home. My son and his girlfriend planned a surprise party for me. I enjoyed it but I wish that Adam was here to celebrate it with me.
December 15, 2015
I just had another long chat with Adam. He proposed to me again. I don’t know how many times he has proposed. I do dream about a life with him. I wish he was living next door to me. I would accept his proposal in a heartbeat. I think about these past 12 months and how happy I’ve felt. How much love this one man has given me. Through the good times and the bad, he’s always been there. I love Adam with all my heart. I know for certain he is the man I want to spend the rest of my life with. I decided that next year I would go and visit Adam. I have no idea how I will get the money to go but somehow I will be in Morocco in 2016.
Summary of 2015
As we can see the scammed victim is very much in love with this man from Morocco. Although she can not see it, there are some red flags between the scammer and the scammed victim. The obvious one is the age difference. There is a 22 year age difference between the scammer and scammed victim. The interesting thing is that she does notice it in the beginning and tries to push him away. The scammer is persistent in trying to win her love. Eventually, she gives in. Another thing I found interesting was that the scammed victim was looking for someone to practice French with. From the story, it looked like she had taken some French courses and wanted to practice what she learned. The scammer starts the initiation by communicating with her in French for about 15 min twice. After this, the scammed victim does not mention any practicing of French which I assume means that the scammer stopped practicing French with her. Let’s not forget that the scammer proclaimed his love for the scammed victim, after 1 week. This is before he ever heard her real voice or even seen her. When the scammed victim asked the scammer if he could get a travel visa, he stated that he couldn’t get a travel visa because he worked a regular job. I found it strange that a teacher from a university could not get another teaching job. I would think at the very least he could teach at a high school. In any case, the scammed victim believed everything that was said to her. I do have sympathy for the scammed victim. She is a single mother who is supporting her 15-year-old son. Throughout the year the scammed victim has had some issues with her son which probably kept her distracted from actually thinking about her relationship with the Moroccan man. I was happy to see that the scammed victim’s relationship with her son improved by the end of the year. You can see that the scammed victim lives a lonely life. It seems that she doesn’t go out much and is mostly a homebody. Normally a scammed victim usually lives a very lonely life. I believe the scammer was actually looking for someone who was lonely as it’s a lot easier to manipulate a lonely scammed victim rather than someone who has a support group that could see the red flags. The scammed victim finished by saying that she was determined to go to Morocco in 2016. It will be interesting to see what happens in 2016.