The sad story of a scammed traveler 2016

Our story continues in 2016 with our scammed victim who will now be called the scammed traveler. If you haven’t seen the last post, we go through the story of the scammed traveler who met a Moroccan man online and has fallen in love with this man. The scammed traveler has decided at the end of the year that she would find a way to travel to Morocco to meet her long-distance love. In this year we go through the continuation of the scammed traveler’s life as she continues her long-distance relationship.

January 10, 2016

It’s been a while since I have written anything. The reason for this is that I’ve been working a part-time job at a retail shop since the end of December. Thanks to Shirly, she was able to help me get a job at her store. It is exhausting some days working a full day at my regular job, just to come home grab a quick bite, and head out to my part-time job. Not to mention weekends which I now work both days. In the end, I keep telling myself that this sacrifice is for my vacation fund. If I am ever to see my love, I have to do this. Things between me and Adam are solid. I speak with him every day but on days that I am working my part-time job, it’s just a few minutes. I love that man so much. He tells me how proud he is of me for doing this for our love. Hearing that gives me the strength to keep going forward. I think if I work part-time until September. I should have enough money to take a trip to Morocco. Well, I guess I can say I have 9 months to go.

January 27, 2016

Just finished chatting with Adam. I feel so bad for him. His mother needs to have an operation on her eye. He said that the little money he is making is just enough to cover food and expenses in the house. He doesn’t know what he will do. I asked him if he could get another job, like me. He says that the economy in Morocco is currently terrible. He is lucky to have the job he currently has. He said that he has tried but cannot find any other job available in his city. I told him not to worry, a solution will present itself. He said that he doesn’t know what he will do if his mother doesn’t get the surgery. I finally told him to see if he could get a loan from the bank. He said, he would go tomorrow. I haven’t prayed in a long time but I think I’m going to need to start praying for his Mother.

January 28, 2016

Was woken by Adam texting me this morning at 4:30 am. He said that the bank refused his application for a loan. They said because he didn’t have an active account or any other assets, they would not be lending him any money. I didn’t see his face or hear his voice but I think he was crying. He started telling me how he’s let his family down. How he is a failure. I started to tear up listening to him attack himself. I hate seeing him so down on himself. I wish I was with him right now. I would give him the biggest hug and assure him that everything will be ok. I checked back with him on my lunch break. He was still down. I asked him how much money he needed. He told me he was able to save half the money but he would need another $500 to pay for the operation. I told him that I can loan him the money and he could pay me whenever had the money. He was ecstatic, to say the least. He told me that no one has ever done something like this before. I told him, we have a relationship. We are a team and we help each other because we love each other. He told me that he had to leave but he said he is now more determined to marry than before, LOL. He is so crazy but I love him nonetheless. I’ll send him the money tomorrow morning before going to work since the Western Union near is closed until tomorrow morning.

January 29, 2016

I just arrived at work 10 min before I start. I sent the money over and Adam texted me that he just received it. He is now calling me his wife, LOL. He is so crazy. He said that he will be making arrangements for his Mothers surgery but he would let me know all the updates. I didn’t tell him that the money came from my vacation fund that was saved money from my part-time job. I honestly thought I had more money saved but once I saw the balance I realized this would take almost all the money from my savings. I shouldn’t complain after all the money is being used for a good cause, my Mother in Law, LOL. It’s just that I’m going to have to work longer to save the money to visit Adam.

February 12, 2016

It’s been exactly 2 weeks since the last time I have spoken with Adam. I always assumed he would be busy with his Mother’s surgery but he should have a chance in the last 2 weeks to tell me how she is doing. Even a simple, “the surgery went well” would have sufficed. I hate being left in the dark like this. I’ve sent him messages every day for the past 2 weeks and he has not responded. I don’t get it. He tells me he loves me and has proposed to me so many times but then he doesn’t want to talk to me for 2 weeks. Is this how he treats his “wife”? If he seriously wants me to consider marrying him, he needs to make me more of a priority in his life. And I don’t think that I’m asking for a lot. Just an update on his Mother’s condition. Even if he is too busy to talk, let me know before so I don’t wait by my phone waiting for his message. This is really inconsiderate of him. The next time we chat, we will have some serious things to work out.

February 14, 2016

Well, it’s Valentine’s Day. Tim made dinner for his girlfriend. Here is my son who isn’t even 16 yet, being romantic with his girlfriend and I’m locked in my room with an entire pizza and a bottle of Dr. Pepper. I always knew that having a long-distance relationship would be tough but this sucks. I thought that maybe Adam and I would be able to do a Skype call and see each other but I still haven’t seen or heard from Adam. At this point, I do not even know if we are in a relationship anymore. What a lousy Valentine’s Day. I can’t even move around in my own home because Tim needs “his privacy”. I actually did leave my room to check up on Tim and Shirly to make sure everything was still “PG”. I saw both of them watching a movie while I pretended that I needed ice for my drink. I could tell from the icy stare Tim gave me that he wasn’t too happy with my presence. Well, I don’t really care what Tim thinks. He’s my son and I’m the one paying the rent for the apartment. He’s lucky that I only came out once and didn’t eat dinner and watch movies with them all night. Adam has a lot of making up to do when he tries to speak with me again.

February 20, 2016

Still no word from Adam. At the part-time job, there weren’t many customers so it was an easy evening. Shirly was on my shift today so I got to speak with her. She is so nice. At first, I didn’t know what to think about her and Tim but after getting to know her I’m happy she is with my son. Well, one thing led to another and the next thing I knew, I was speaking about my relationship with Adam. I know, it’s weird. Let alone talking to a 16-year-old but a 16-year-old who is dating my son but I haven’t shared anything about Adam with anyone and I was feeling like I was about to explode. I told her about how Adam has been ghosting me (Shirly had to explain to me what ghosting is). She suggested that maybe something happened to his phone which is why he hasn’t been able to talk. I looked at my phone and I realized that he hadn’t read any of my messages so perhaps he used all the money and didn’t purchase another card (he uses pre-paid cards). He did say he had to save $500 which is a lot for him so perhaps he hasn’t had the chance to refill his data charge. I started to feel better about the entire situation until I was driving home. What if something happened to Adam? Like something really bad. I haven’t been able to stop thinking about this. Even on my bed, my mind is racing through all these horrible thoughts. I’ve been crying for the last hour and I can’t stop these tears from falling. I can’t believe I was being so selfish when something really terrible could have happened to him. I need to pray for his safety.

March 3, 2016

Well, Adam finally returned my call. The good news is that he is ok. He said that the reason that he did not respond to me was that he was so busy taking care of his mother and then he lost his job. He has been looking for work all this time. He says he can get work doing odd jobs here or there but nothing serious right now. He apologized to me for not being in contact with me for more than a month which I appreciate. I told him that he could never do that to me again. If he knew he was going to be too busy to speak to me, he needed to find a way to tell me. He reassured me that he would never do that to me again and said if something like this happened again he would contact me, even if he had to travel 1 hour to an internet cafe to write me an email. After that, he told me about his mother, she was good but still recovering so he was still busy taking care of her. He said that it’s been difficult because everyone in his home is busy so he has been taking care of his mother and trying to find work. I told him I missed him like crazy. He told me that he felt like his heart was separated when he was not chatting with me. Normally I melt when he says these romantic things but I still had some lingering feelings of resentment towards him. I wanted to say more about how I felt this past month but honestly, I was happy and relieved that we were chatting again. After all, he has been going through so much this past month. If me, his girlfriend can’t forgive him, then who will?

March 17, 2016

It’s been 2 weeks and it feels like things are back to normal between me and Adam. We are back to chatting regularly. Adam is still working odd jobs here and there. Between Adam and his unsteady work and me working 2 jobs, it’s so hard to find the energy to chat. Even though we are chatting daily, our conversations are mostly about each other’s days. There is hardly time for romantic conversations. To be honest I miss those conversations. I think that the stress of finding steady employment has put a lot of stress on Adam. Hopefully, he finds a steady job soon. On a good note, all these extra hours I’m working at the part-time job are starting to add up. I should be ready to take the trip to Morocco by the end of the year. Tim said that he doesn’t want to take a summer vacation this year. He wants to use the summer to get his summer license and also continue working. It looks like everyone is busy right now trying to achieve their goals.

April 11, 2016

Today I got into a huge fight with Adam. Earlier today I went I had an appointment with the doctor. He told me that my cholesterol was high and that I needed to lose weight. I admit since I have been working two jobs, it’s been hard to cook meals. I have been buying junk food a few times a week. Well, I told Adam about my cholesterol problem. He then started berating me saying that it was my fault that I had these problems. He started saying that I had to stop being lazy just like other Americans. Well, I didn’t take that well. First of all, I only started eating junk food because I am working 2 jobs. I don’t have time to cook meals at home. The second thing is that I am only doing this so that I have the money to come to see him. If he doesn’t appreciate the sacrifices I am doing for him, then why do I even bother? He then tried to explain how his mother cooked every day for the family and how no one in his family had these issues. Well, I didn’t take that well as I felt he was attacking me as a lazy, fat, American. One thing led to another and the next thing I knew, I was telling him that we shouldn’t be together. He tried apologizing, saying that he was just trying to tell me to change my regime (this is what he calls a diet). I told him to leave me and to find a Moroccan woman who could cook for him and never have any health issues for her entire life. I was so stupid to think that this relationship would work. We are two completely different people. He is so young and I am so old. I asked him why doesn’t just marry a young woman who could provide for him, with children, because I cannot give him a child. I told him that I have done so much for him and for him to speak to me like this is unacceptable. He kept trying to apologize but I told him it was over. I blocked him so I wouldn’t have him blowing up my phone. The whole ordeal was so upsetting I had to call in sick for my part-time job. Now I’m single with two jobs and all this disposable cash. I guess I can still use the money and go on a nice cruise.

April 13, 2016

After a few days of contemplating, I think I may have overreacted. I’ve been going through the conversation and I can see where Adam was coming from. He was just trying to tell me to change my diet. The way he worded it offended me but English is not his first language. It’s not even his second language. The real issue is my insecurities. I do have a weight problem and I need to get that under control. It’s just that I felt that Adam was attacking me but in reality,f he never called me fat in that conversation. If I had only taken the conversation as Adam telling me that I needed to own my current situation and change it, I would have had a relationship with him. Instead, I exploded and ended the relationship. What is wrong with me? This is the first guy that has been in love with me for so long and I shove him away like that. I have unblocked him today but he has yet to reach out to me. Another stupid thing I did was I called into my part-time job and quit. So even if we get back together, I will not have enough money to see him. I’m such a fool.

April 18, 2016

He finally contacted me! I come home from work today and started preparing dinner when my phone started buzzing. I checked and it was Adam. I was shocked as he didn’t chat with me for a week and I thought I lost him forever. Well, he returned. He said that he didn’t contact me because he wanted to give me some time to cool off. We both apologized for last week and understood going forward, we needed to be patient with each other. He reassured me that he didn’t care about my age, my religion, or even me not being able to provide for him, with children. He just wanted to have a relationship with me and pass an easy life. I told him out of stupidity, I quit my part-time job but he comforted me and told me that we will see each other god willing. He said, one day we will be together and look back at these times and realize that it was worth it. He finally sent a voice clip telling me that he misses me and loves me and that he was waiting for me in Morocco. Hearing his voice just made my evening.

May 13, 2016

Today must have been the biggest roller coaster ride of emotions that I have ever been through in my entire life. Before I start I should say for the past month, things have been great between me and Adam. He’s returned to being the romantic man that I fell in love with. I’m working just my regular job but there is so much less stress in my life. I’ve started cooking regularly and when I checked my weight 2 days ago, I lost 5 pounds. I was even thinking about taking a loan from the bank to fund my trip to Morocco. Then today happened. I came to work this morning and immediately was asked to attend a mandatory meeting. Not having any idea what the meeting was about, I started asking some of my colleagues if they had any idea what the meeting was about, and none of them knew either. When I showed up at the meeting, I saw that the entire team was there. We were then told that the company was outsourcing our entire call center and because of this all of us were being laid off. To say I was devastated would be an understatement. There have been so many ups and downs in my life, especially over the past few years but my job has always been like a rock in my life. For 12 years I never had to worry about my job. Now I’m unemployed and will have to start looking for a new job. Our team went out for a final lunch, and a few of my friends were in tears. To be honest, I felt like shedding some tears as well but I needed to be strong for them. H.R. gave me a document saying that they would be giving me 6 months of severance pay so I guess that gives me some time to find a new job. I came home early today ready to burst into tears.

I sent a message to Adam to let him know this horrible news. Before I could really start crying, Adam started comforting me and then told me that this is great news. I asked how this could be great news. He then explained because of the severance I received I now have the money to take the trip to Morocco. He explained that I need a break from working especially after working for so long. The more he spoke, the more he made sense. Sometimes Adam can be so wise. It’s almost like I’m the 26-year-old and he is the 48-year-old, LOL. He told me that he had to go but I should start to make arrangements for the trip and he would talk to me tomorrow. Tim and Shirly arrived home a little while later and I sat them down and explained the entire job situation. Tim immediately interrupted saying that he would step up and help out until I go on my feet. Shirly then said she would help as well (this girl is so sweet). I told both of them to relax. I had some money that would help for the next few months but I was planning to take a trip to Morocco. They both supported the decision and Tim said that he would take care of the home while I was away and I had nothing to worry about. Shirly said she would help out as well. Really they just need to buy food while I’m away and keep the house clean but knowing that both of them had my back was really sweet. Life is so strange. In the morning I was so devastated I thought it was going to be the worst day but then the evening comes around and I’m so excited, I can’t sleep.

May 20, 2016

So I purchased my tickets a few days ago. I’ll be leaving on the following Saturday and staying there for 3 weeks. I originally thought I should just go for a week and Adam said that 1 week would be too short and I should stay for 6 weeks. I could understand how he feels, he just wants as much time as possible with his love. Believe me, I wish I could stay with him for 3 months but I’m unemployed. I need to find work when I come back. We settled for 3 weeks. Adam is saying that I can stay with him and his family so I don’t have to pay for a hotel. For the past week, he has been telling me about all these plans he has for us. It sounds fun but really I just want to spend time with him. There is still so much I need to do. He has asked me if I could get him a tablet so he would be able to find better employment opportunities. I’ll look for one tomorrow. I’m so excited about this trip. This will be my first international trip outside the United States.

May 28, 2016

I just passed through the security at the airport and I’m in the waiting area. It’s going to be 26 hours before I arrive in Marrakesh. I hope I’m able to make it. I’m sure I’ll be able to sleep on the plane. As I am sitting here waiting for the plane, I realized that Tim’s 16th birthday will be next week and I won’t be here to celebrate with him. At least he has Shirly there to celebrate with him. I hope Adam likes the tablet I bought him. I also bought his parents some small gifts as well. I just spoke with him before he went to sleep. I told him I was nervous about meeting him and that I was scared that he would not like me when he saw me. Really he has only seen a few pictures of me and we once saw each other on a Skype call but sometimes people look different in real life. I have been trying to cut back on junk food and I have lost 7 pounds since April. He told me not to worry about that. He loves me and our connection is deeper than just physical beauty. He always knows what to say to me. Well, it looks like it’s time to start boarding the plane now. 24 hours to go.

May 30, 2016

Finally, I’m here. That was tough. I had to travel to 4 different cities. When I arrived, they had us exit the plane onto the ground, where the other planes were! That was a shock to me. Then going through passport control took more than an hour. It really seemed inefficient and outdated. The luggage then took another hour. I guess after traveling for 30 hours (yes 30 because the flight to Marrakesh was 4 hours late), 2 additional hours is nothing. After getting my luggage and leaving through the doors my nervousness and anxiety were through the roof. I could feel my heartbeat and it felt like it was going to pop out of my chest. My anxiety was so high that I was almost at the point of turning back. Then I saw Adam. He is even more handsome than his pictures. He saw me, smiled and came over and gave me 2 kisses on each cheek. After those kisses, all the anxiety I had was instantly removed. We took a taxi to his home. The weather is somewhat similar to the weather in my city but the taxi didn’t have any AC in it and after not showering for more than a day, I felt uncomfortable. We arrived after 30 min at his home. After meeting his parents his brother and sister. I gave them the gifts and took a quick shower. I’m going to take a nap right now because I’m exhausted. It seems like everyone else is going to take a nap as well, LOL. I am so tired but I am feeling happy and comfortable at the same time.

May 31, 2016

I wanted to write more about my first day in Morocco but after my nap, I was so preoccupied that I didn’t have a chance. I guess I’ll recap what happened after my nap. We sat around and had afternoon tea. The tea was so delicious as the homemade cookies that Adam’s mother made. I thought me trying to cook dinner at home was stepping up but I don’t hold a candle to Adam’s mother. At around 8 pm, Adam took me out to see some of his city. I asked him if we were not going to eat dinner but he said that his mother was just starting We walked around a place called Gueliz. It was really nice looking area with a lot of shops and tons of people. We walked around for about an hour and then returned. I really wanted to explore the city some more but I was still tired from my 30-hour trip and Adam could tell. When we returned to Adam’s home, his mother was still cooking. It was 9:30 pm and she was still cooking! Adam then told me that they normally eat dinner very late in the summer. At around 11 pm we ate dinner. This was an experience for me. Firstly, Adam’s home didn’t really have a dining area and the kitchen was too small to eat in. I didn’t mind this. There are many times when Tim and myself will just take our food to the living room and eat in front of the TV. We all gathered around a round table, waiting for the dinner to be brought. Adam’s sister then brought this fancy dish. She brought it to me and Adam told me to extend my hands. Adam’s sister then poured water over my hands. After Adam’s sister went around to everyone at the table, Adam’s mother brought the dish to the table. His sister then returned with these round loaves of bread and everyone started to share the loaves with each of us. The mother removed the cylindrical cover and we saw the dish. It looked like beef with prunes. I didn’t really know what to think of the food but at this time, I was hungry. I looked for any plates or spoons to take some of the food but there were none. Then I saw everyone starting to eat from this dish. They would tear pieces of bread and dip them into the food and eat. I didn’t know what to think and Adam probably seeing my hesitation explained that this is how the Moroccans eat and it symbolizes unity amongst the family. I figured since everyone cleaned their hands it was ok. I stuck to my section of the plate and started eating. After getting over the family eats together (literally), I really started to enjoy myself. The food was so delicious and what was even more pleasant was a conversation between everyone. You could tell the love that the family had for each other. After dinner, Adam and I went to the balcony and just face to face for a bit. I really wanted to hug and kiss him but being in his parent’s home, I held myself back. The conversation I had with Adam was so much better speaking face to face, rather than chatting on a phone app. We returned inside and went to sleep, separately. I woke today at 12 pm. I guess the jet lag will take a few more days to wear off. Adam said that I should rest today because we were going to go to market this evening. I am so excited!

June 6, 2016

Well, I thought that I would be writing every day but there have been so many activities that by the time we got home, I was completely exhausted and just collapsed on my bed. I’m thinking Adam was right and I should have booked a six-week vacation. So the last time I wrote, I said that I was going to the market. This market must be the biggest in the world. There must have been 10000 people and Adam said that it’s this busy EVERY DAY! I think the name of the market is called Jame el fina. This is what Adam and his sister told me. We walked for hours in the market until late in the night and even then we covered only a fraction of the market. What was a big surprise was the prices were not listed. If you wanted to buy anything in the market, you needed to have a negotiation on the price. Lucky for me Adam’s sister was there and would negotiate on my behalf. Without negotiating the price, you would end up paying 3 times the amount. Well during the week, Adam took me on day trips to different places. We rented a car for convenience. Adam said that if I didn’t want to pay for the car, we could take a bus but I thought the privacy would be better for us. I can’t remember the names of the places we went to but one of the places had a waterfall so we took pictures. Another place was on the coast of Morocco and we ate seafood that was just caught the same day. Finally, Adam took me to the countryside and we had a picnic over a lake. It was so romantic. On the weekend he told me of a plan to rent a villa in the city of Agadir for a week. His sister and brother with his family would join us and there were a lot of things to do there plus, the weather was milder. I was a little hesitant because I didn’t know if I would be able to afford it but when he told me the price I was surprised it was so cheap. We are now getting ready to go. Every day that I have spent here has been so magical. I’m so lucky to have found love with this man.

June 15, 2016

Just returned from Agadir. The trip within the trip was so beautiful. I enjoyed every single day I was there. Mostly we hung out at the beach but there were times Adam and myself would pull away to spend some time alone. Mostly it was eating at restaurants but sometimes it was strolling on the boardwalk. One day Adam took me to Oufella which is a mountain overlooking the city of Agadir. It was there that Adam proposed to me again. This time I said yes. He is the man of my dreams and there is no point keeping him waiting for me. On the last day at Agadir, we stayed on the beach into the evening barbecuing. We shared the news with Adam’s brother and sister. They were ecstatic for us and then called the parents. They were happy as well and they started speaking to me. I didn’t understand what they said but Adam told me that they basically said welcome. I guess it means welcome to the family but I could tell with their smiles that they’re happy. Tomorrow I’m going to go shopping with Adam’s sister and then the day after I will be leaving to return home. I could already feel the depression start to creep into me. As much as I’m going to miss Adam, I’m also going to miss his family. They treated me like one of their own and made every day in Morocco so magical. I am so happy that I chose to come to Morocco. Now, that I’m leaving, I wish I could just fit Adam into my suitcase and take him home.

July 28, 2016

It’s been a while since I returned home but I have been so busy hitting the pavement. I’ve had several interviews and I was offered a job today. It’s still in a call center but the pay is better. Also, I told them that I planned to go to Morocco for 5 weeks starting in December to get married and they agreed to give me this time off. I was really surprised they accepted this. My previous companies would never give me this amount of time off. Because I was so busy this past month, I haven’t spoken to Adam about when I would return to Morocco to get married, I’m sure he wouldn’t have a problem. He would probably tell me to come now, LOL. Tomorrow Tim and Shirly are going to take me to a celebration dinner for landing a job. I’ll have 2 weeks before I start. Now I can finally relax. With all this free time, I can finally speak to Adam and start talking about the marriage.

August 15, 2016

Completed the first day. I am so exhausted. I guess it’s because I haven’t worked for the last few months. During the past few weeks, I started researching the requirements for marriage in Morocco. I’ll start to gather the documents in November I don’t think it should take much time. Adam says that he is so frustrated with working temporary jobs. I told him just hold on for a little while. Once we marry, I’ll put in the paperwork and he will be with me soon. He said that this is his dream. I feel bad that he is having such a bad time finding work. He told me the other day that he wishes that he had a permanent job so I wouldn’t have to pay for everything. I told him that I don’t mind, I know that it’s temporary and you would find work soon. Even if he doesn’t find work, he will find work when he is here with me.

September 18, 2016

A few days ago I had a terrible fight with Adam. A day before, I was reviewing the requirements for a Moroccan marriage on the official embassy website. They had a huge disclaimer about Internet Romance and Marriage Fraud. Basically, the disclaimer indicated that there were a lot of fraudulent marriages from Morocco. What was even scarier was the number of similarities between me and some of the points listed. Even though I was a little concerned, I wanted to discuss these things with Adam. Maybe I was looking for some sort of assurance that Adam’s love for me was real. I guess maybe I may have spoken in a way that was accusative. He didn’t take well to what I told him. He assumed that I was accusing him of these things. I repeatedly told him that I was not accusing, just I found it curious that we had similarities to these points. He told me if I believed these things, then I shouldn’t be married to him. He then left and I have not heard from him again. I really didn’t mean to offend him. I hope he returns soon.

September 25, 2016

Adam has returned to speak with me. He told me that he needed some space because he felt he was being attacked. I told him that wasn’t my intention, I just wanted to have a conversation about it. He then assured me that our relationship was not the same. He said, first of all, he introduced me to his family. He doesn’t just do that with anybody. He said that I should know that we have a strong connection. This is something that can’t be faked. It’s true what he said. We do have deep conversations. After our conversation, I felt better. He also thought that because we didn’t see each other for a long time, these insecure feelings were going to emerge. He said he would try to find a way to speak with me. Unfortunately, Morocco has blocked all video and audio calls via the internet. Maybe we can use phone cards?

October 25, 2016

It’s been a busy month for everyone. Adam has found some temporary work so he’s been busy. I only speak with him once a week now. Tim and Shirly are busy as well with school and work. I do see them regularly but they’re always studying and on the weekends Tim takes her out. I still remember last year, when he told me about Shirly and how hesitant I was for him to have a relationship at such a young age. I’m so glad I was wrong. Tim’s maintaining a 4.0 while having a part-time job and a full-time girlfriend. It really looks like he has a shot at becoming an engineer. As for me, I have kept myself busy going through websites and forums to know the requirements of marrying in Morocco. I should be able to get everything in November. The only tricky thing will be the divorce certificate. My ex has the only copy of our divorce certificate. I haven’t spoken to him in years. I’m hoping there is no drama when I speak with him next month. Finally, I book my ticket! I’ll be leaving on Dec 2 and returning on Jan 6, 2017. I know that this time we will be so busy, we won’t have any time for fun but it’s going to be so good to see Adam again. I miss him like crazy.

November 15, 2016

I’m so furious. For the past week, I have been gathering the documents I need in order to get married in Morocco. I have everything except for the divorce certificate. Today I called Charlie to get the divorce certificate. He started interrogating me as if I committed some crime. After some back and forth, I finally confessed and told him that I was getting remarried and needed the document. You would think at this point he would give me the certificate. Well no, he started interrogating me some more. I finally had enough and told Charlie that it wasn’t any of his business what happened in my life and that I would be coming this weekend to pick up the divorce certificate. He then told me he would not give it to me. He needed to know more about the man I would be marrying because he was concerned about his son. Tim hasn’t visited Charlie in over a year and I don’t think they talk much but now all of a sudden, he is concerned about Charlie? Does he not realize that I am his mother and would never put him in any danger? He finally said that he would rather burn the certificate than give it to me. I can’t get married without this divorce certificate. I’m not sure what to do. Charlie always finds a way to screw me over.

November 29, 2016

Well after scrambling for the last few weeks, I found out that I could get my own copy of my divorce certificate at the courthouse. I made the appointment today and received it earlier today. I finally have everything I need. I can start packing for my trip. I can’t wait to be married to Adam and have him here with me. I sat Tim down and talked to him about Adam living here. I think we came to an agreement on how we will all live together. Tim is still indifferent about Adam but he has told me that this is probably because he doesn’t know Adam. I guess things will change once they know each other better. I’m probably not going to be able to write while I’m in Morocco. Adam said that things are going to be hectic for the next 5 weeks. I’ll write about my entire experience once I return home.

Summary

The scammed traveler spent the beginning of the year trying to save money to meet her boyfriend. Although the scammed traveler did not discuss how much severance she received when she lost her job, it seemed that she didn’t give it much thought once her boyfriend suggested she use the money to travel to Morocco. I’m left wondering if the scammed traveler used her entire severance to travel to meet her boyfriend. I hope that she kept some money. When the scammed traveler finally arrived in Morocco, she was so caught up in the magic and the romance that the scammed traveler was unaware that her boyfriend had made her pay for the car and it seems the entire villa in Agadir. Having felt that romance which the scammed traveler probably didn’t feel for a long time, as soon as the scammed traveler arrived home, she started thinking about the next trip. This should have been a period where the scammed traveler reviews her diary and contemplates whether her boyfriend is truly genuine. One of the things our scammed traveler should have done was question his employment. For someone who needed to work to support his family, he was able to take 3 weeks off to spend with the scammed traveler. Another thing that was strange was how the boyfriend made plans to spend the scammed travelers money without discussing it with her first. It was pretty evident (at least to me) that the scammed traveler would be proposed to and would accept the proposal. The scammed traveler sort of hinted at it before she even went to Morocco. Our scammed traveler was fortunate enough to find work fairly quickly. She made more money than her previous job so I’m assuming the scammed traveler saved some money for her next trip. The scammed traveler started researching the requirements for marriage and was first introduced to the concept of a marriage scam. You can tell that the scammed traveler started to have some doubts but was so much in love with her fiance, that she more or less looked for assurance rather than the truth of the relationship. The scammed traveler was taken back when her fiance felt angry after she informed him about what she found about marriage scams. As soon as he gave her a reason, the scammed traveler accepted it without any thought. Unfortunately, our scammed traveler has never met someone who has experienced a marriage scam before so the scammed traveler never had someone to warn her. As I continue to read the journal entries of our scammed traveler, I feel bad as I can see from her second year that things are not good. The scammed traveler is convinced that she has a great relationship but I feel that the scammed traveler is sort of in denial. The fiance of the scammed traveler is not making any efforts to speak with her or even see her. We can see sometimes he says he is busy and he doesn’t even chat with the scammed traveler. In the next post, we will see what happened with her marriage and the process of sponsoring her fiance.